Do not underestimate yourself by comparing yourself with others. It’s our differences that make us unique & beautiful.
-unknown
We are human. It’s our nature to want to fit in.
The other week, while I was seeing a client she mentioned that she often finds herself comparing to her best girl friend. They are both skilled and fit volleyball players. Each beautiful, athletic and strong.
My clients, notes that she has always been the “injured friend” and her professional volleyball career was cut short by series of injuries. Her best friend continues to play professionally and maintains a very fit physique. My client is proud of her fitness and activity level; however she does not feel 100% confident in her body because she’s noticed changes and also notes the difference between her body and her friends.
Now the question is how do we deal with it?
This feeling of jealousy, wanting or regretting the loss of what we used to have is often overwhelming and can over-shadow all the achievements that we can be happy and proud of.
There’s a yoga term for letting go or more specifically finding contentment: Santosha. When we let go of the wanting and accept what we have, that feeling of being completely comfortable and satisfied comes in.
In yoga, when we step onto the mat we are trained to let go of the outside world and be in that moment…perfect and peaceful. Then we are trained to check in with our breath and the body and notice what’s going on in our minds. After that, the goal is to let it go and stay present doing yoga or meditating because there’s nowhere else that you can be or should be.
There will be plenty of wanting or not wanting in this life. The trick is to keep bringing yourself back to the present, to the breath and enjoy any peace that you can find in each moment.
Food for thought:
“Be content with what you have. Rejoice in the way things are. When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.” -Lao Tzu
(I keep having to remind myself of this when I step outside and it’s still below freezing!)
You don’t need a New Year to make a change. All you need is a Monday! Make this the week you change your life.
– #AmbitionDaily.com
Each morning I wake up. I go potty. I wash my hands. I brush my teeth. I put on my gym clothes. Gather my food, clothing and other accessories for the day. I pile everything into my car (Elsa, the blue Prius) and drive to the YMCA for a pre-workday workout.
This is my morning routine, or as I am looking at it, my weekday habits.
Recently, I was challenged with the idea that people do not make changes because it sounds like fun but instead because they have to…
Instead, I would argue we make changes not just when we have to but when we want to see new or different results.
For instance, maybe you have realized how much money you spend eating out for lunch and decided you would like to save money and eat food from home instead.
You start by buying another loaf of bread at the grocery store with some fresh sliced deli meats or maybe pick up the fixing’s for a good ol’ fashion peanut butter and honey sandwich. Then you buy fruit, baby carrots or bag-o-salad for a crunchy side option. Next, you start setting aside 10 minutes in the evening to gather lunch for the next day to take to work.
Ta-da!
This has become your new habit, but not because your doctor said so or because your honey was nagging you about the bank count – OK maybe it was a little bit of the nagging… ;-).
Food for thought:
On the flipside, you can continue to do what you’ve been doing and know that the results will continue to be the same.
What’s one change you’ve been wanting to see in your life?
Do you want to feel less tired when the alarm goes off in the morning? Sounds like a great opportunity to try going to bed a half-an-hour earlier.
You is kind. You is smart. You is important.
-Aibileen Clark from “The Help”
Do you ever get that little voice inside of you questioning why you are doing what you are doing?
As a small business owner I get that… a lot. I do not think it is a bad thing; it’s just trying to protect me.
When it comes to making lifestyle changes whether you are quitting a bad habit or trying to incorporate a good one, that voice may be there questioning your actions. It may ask, “Why are you trying again when you know it didn’t work the last three times?”
Maybe the voice telling you stories about how much easier it would be to give up and continue with the status quo.
Below you will find a few tools to coping with the moments of doubt:
1. Say thank you and respond with a question.
If you are full of self-doubt or worry it is often the mind wanting to protect you or itself. When you incorporate a new habit the brain has to work much harder (and it does not like that!). Instead of jumping on the doubt train in your mind, acknowledge the worry with a “thank you,” then respond with a question such as “why are you so concerned about this?”
2. Cancel, cancel! No, thank you.
This technique is modified from one of my favorite podcasts – The Joy Junkie show. When you start to notice your mind telling stories of failure simply say “Cancel, cancel. No, thank you.” That will pull you away from the spiral of negative self talk so you can re-evaluate what is happening in the moment.
3. Change the story.
Instead of taking the path that recounts your not-so-successful attempts to change, try recounting the ways in which you have succeeded in making a healthy change. For example, you can proudly tell your mind about the carrots you eat with lunch instead of potato chips or how you’ve successfully reduced eating fast food to 1 time per week.
Food for thought:
Life is hard enough without us telling stories that make it harder.
You are a smart, successful and beautiful/handsome person.
Take a moment to notice what the mind says when you hear or read that message. If it responds with disbelief, question it.
You are a smart, successful and beautiful person. Let it be.
“Success doesn’t happen overnight. Keep an eye on the prize and don’t look back.” – Erin Andrews
It’s the last Monday in January! Can you believe it??
According to someone nearly 90% of us that set out to achieve something new in 2016 have already quit or given up.
Not you!
Today you opened your Motivational Monday because you know choosing to live healthy and happy does not happen overnight. Each day or week is another opportunity to set goals and see the change you want in your life.
I came across a great article that asked 5 challenging questions regarding business goal-setting. A lot of these easily apply to lifestyle goals as well but I was especially intrigued by this concept of goals versus intentions.
Below is an example to show the difference between a goal and an intention.
A good intention might be: “I’m going to start exercising this year.” Versus a good goal: “I’m going to walk for 30 minutes three days a week.”
Here are a few questions to ask yourself when determining if you have good intensions or great goals…
Ask yourself:
1. Is this the most specific I can get? Taking the example above, you can specify which 3 days you will walk each week.
2. How am I measuring my goal? I find writing it down or using a calendar to mark which days you succeeded to be more motivating because you can see the progress.
3. Is this goal attainable? If you are working 80 hours a week is it realistic to plan on cooking 5 nights/week?
4. Is this something I want to do? Is it realistic to [insert goal] in my life at this time? For example, will you actually wake up at 5am to make it to the gym?
5. Have I given myself enough time or too much time to start? Having a start date and maybe end date gives you the freedom to stop fretting over “forever” or giving into “next week.”
Food for thought:
We all have stuff to work on.
Setting out the big goals and then applying the questions above will allow us to turn big goals into bite-sized pieces.
That’s where a good intention becomes a new habit!
Picture this… It’s 2pm. You start to feel your eyes getting heavy, your brain slows down and as if on a timer you get that overwhelming craving for a candy bar, coffee, or anything that will bring your out of the haze.
Does this sound familiar?
If you are lucky enough to be retired or self-employed (*wink, wink) my recommendation is a 20-30 minute nap to press the reset button on your energy tank. Unfortunately, not all of us have that luxury. What do we do?
First step is to recognize the patterns in your body. When I started to pay closer attention to my energy levels and the body’s response to low energy – i.e. the sugar and caffeine cravings – I gained a little more control in how I choose to manage these moments.
Below are a a few suggestions from entrepreneur.com that have worked well for me:
1. Get in motion! Seems counter-intuitive to ask someone who is tired to get up and exercise; however, mental fatigue is generally not linked to physical fatigue. Taking time to go walk, jog in place, take a bike ride or another activity will send blood and nutrients to your heart, brain and lungs to help them operate more efficiently.
2. Drink up! Some statistics show that up to 75 percent of the American population is chronically dehydrated. You’ve probably heard the body is mostly water (and if you’ve had a cold lately you know all about the fluids in the body!). This means when we take in more water it can help nourish the brain and muscles.
3. Return to the breath. Take a long, deep breath in. Hold at the top for just a moment, then completely exhale to the bottom of the lungs.
Did you feel it?! You just gave yourself an instant wake-up call by delivering oxygen to the brain and other cells in the body.
4. Try chia seeds! These are an ancient Mayan secret to promoting strength and stamina in their warriors, this new “superfood” is full of Omega-3s, antioxidants and fiber for a healthy source of energy even for us non-warriors.
Food for thought:
Have you been struggling with low energy during the work day?
We’ve all been there! Instead of giving into the same ol’ temptations, why not try an all natural fix from the list above?
